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Originally Posted by Spiderlegs
Hellion, this is something that I've worried about. Years ago, I was accused of being 'manipulative' by a relative. I've thought and thought about it since and have tried very hard to understand my own motives.
In this particular case, it was he who was manipulating me...putting me in the middle of he and his wifes fights, pushing chores on me to help him...gardening, sewing, babysitting, looking for property for HIM. When I told him to STOP asking me to lie to his wife, he accused me of being 'manipulative'.....just another blockhead member of my family.
So there is nothing wrong with you trying to be sure you are not manipulating people around you, it's part of your self examination, and that's a good thing.
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hmm well when I really think about it I guess I don't feel I'm actually manipulating...I guess I just feel like I don't really deserve it when people try and help or just do nice things so then I feel bad about it especially if I can't return the favor...like I'm just a burden to them. Then of course I start thinking I must be a burden but that either they just don't know that's true yet so that's why they claim otherwise...or that they do know but they just don't want to be 'mean' about it.
But yeah I do tend to help with things like If I stay at a friend or family members house other then my moms(well there to) I clean or do other things to help.