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Originally Posted by PreacherHeckler
I remember some of your posts from last year, and how your therapist would just smile when you asked if you were the most loved, and I remember wishing he would address the issue with you and help you work it through before you (or another client) were deeply hurt.
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I don't know if T fed into it...I think, looking back, he didn't know how to handle it. Sometimes I would tell him what I would tell my boys if one of them asked if they were the favorite, and he would be like "ooh, that's good" (he has one child). So, he would definitely never ever say I was his favorite, but he didn't say "I don't have a favorite".
We've talked about it since then, and I think that he thought (and I thought) that slowly and organically, I would come to learn that there didn't have to be a favorite, that what we had was enough, etc. But it didn't end up happening that way, and it really WAS painful.
I think T learned some really important lessons through all of this, and so did I.
