as a different take on the thread honoring mothers we wanted to pose a question of the opposite side-why do those of us who still have mothers but yet have no warm fuzzy loving feelings for them-feel obligated to buy them cards and gifts? ours is no longer here and even if she were our money wouldnt be spent on a single thing for her. we think its wonderful for those who have great relationships with their mothers,but ours was so incredibly abusive that,well,you know the rest. so we were just curious what drives others to purchase gifts?