I guess my relationship with my mom wasn't all bad, she wasn't really abusive. Yeah she did some crappy and hurtful things. It was more what she didn't do than what she did in my case. I guess on some level I feel some type of obligation out of loyalty for family. Maybe another part is, that its easier to buy a gift that means nothing to me, then to deal with the reprucussions of not giving anything. Ok this questions is way harder to answer than I thought. I think there is also some pitty in there, in some ways I feel bad for her, as my T tried to explain to me, she did the best she could with what she had (I don't necessarily agree with this reasoning).