Yes, there is hope. We use 'romance cards' to help focus us, we use more of them when we're really high or low. Also marriage counseling and individual counseling help us a lot. However, my DH does 'get me'. Reading personal stories may help her too. I feel very open communication is important though. Why don't you make her an "I love you" card with paper and crayons / color pencils and leave it somewhere she can find it?