I don't want to hurt her feelings, and I can't cut her out of my life. If I tried, she wouldn't let me, and she's my connection to most of my living relatives so it just wouldn't work. At least I think my mom means well, for the most part. Though that doesn't change the pain she's caused me.

[edit] oh, but I'm not buying anything or sending a card. she just gets a phone call and me attempting to listen to her talk w/o getting too offended/bored/whatever