Hi Gothgirl7,

I just recently had and posted about a similar experience:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=228124

I have encountered this so many times with online dating now that if the person is not specifically there for a long-term relationship and/or is seeing other people at the same time as me, I generally regard it as someone who likes to date around and I just don't feel secure enough to invest time in someone knowing that they are seeing someone else. I say, you see someone and see what happens, and if it doesn't work out then you move on. I personally don't understand seeing multiple people at once. I think it does more to take away from a potential budding relationship than contribute to it, because you are dividing attention. That, and there's the whole guesswork thing ("How many other people is s/he seeing? How serious are they? Is she just hanging around until something better comes along?")...which I just can't do. Perhaps that could be seen as a 'weakness', but I know myself well enough to know I won't tolerate it. But that is what is promoted in culture these days, so people follow it. It seems to work for many people, but it doesn't work for me, so I don't cater to it. I believe in staying true to my beliefs, doing what feels right, and being open and honest about that, and if others' style is just too different...then the next one can have them. Supposedly, there is someone out there for everyone. But don't take my word for it. I'm still single and waiting...