My brother finds women on the beach attractive. Not bcoz they are skantily clad, but make-up is non-existant (atleast here it is) and the hair is natural, so he can see the truth... Overly attractive women, do tend to intimidate certain men AND also, make-up is false advertising (unless when used to accentuate certain features) idk if you have a beach nearby, but maybe you could try going slightly natural on the beach and see if anything changes? Or maybe try taking a walk without looking too dolled up, and see what happens? Sorry if that was of no help, but my brother usually knows what he's talking about. Ps, I had a similar problem, and dressing down got results, but I've subsequently given up on relationships for unrelated reasons.