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Originally Posted by insideout
I'm attractive, I'm not afraid to admit it.
(Ok, I know this is gonna ruffle some feathers because many people dislike a woman who seems conceited.)
But I have found that men find me attractive, yet do not approach me as often as women who are less attractive. I take a lot of time getting my hair the right shade of blonde, my nails right, certain makeup, clothes, etc...
so am I trying too hard to look good?
Obviously there is the issue of personality and all that, but do you think there is a such thing as being overly attractive?
and does that distract a potential date from seeing past your looks?
Does being very attractive serve as a disadvantage? and why?
I am bit OCD about the way I look so this is hard for me, but would I have more success in relationships if i toned it down a bit?
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Admittedly I haven't read through the entire thread so maybe someone has already said this, but you've stated that you spend a lot of time to look perfect (paraphrasing here). I wonder if some men feel like you're unapproachable? I mean, the impression I always got from my guy friends was that people like Victoria's Secret models (perfect hair, makeup, body) are like a painting in a museum: look but can't touch. In reality they like a little bit of imperfection...you know? Hopefully that came out the way I meant it to. If you're attractive by nature, then you're attractive whether every hair and bit of makeup is in place or whether you're just wearing a little lip gloss and hair in a ponytail.
