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Old May 13, 2012, 09:29 PM
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Originally Posted by newtus View Post
my dads drinking more and more
I'm sorry to hear that.

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he almost died twice with that stuff in the past 2 years
in sep last year he had an accident at home...
..blood..was just everywhere all over me from him
You mentioned that before.

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plus hes trying to surprise take me to psychs
if i go ill be in a hospital stay a 3rd time already in 2012
He's probably trying to get you help.

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i cant go if hes gonna drink and might die again
i gotta ignore me and help him
I don't agree. It sounds to me as if everyone in this situation is stretched past the breaking point. If you want to take care of your father, you need to take care of yourself.

I love this gatha from Thich Nhat Hanh:
You are me and I am you.
Is it not true that we inter-are?
You cultivate the flower in you so that I will be beautiful.
And I transform the garbage in me so that you don't have to suffer.
The best thing you can do for your dad right now is to take care of yourself, just as the best thing he can do for you is to take care of himself. When you don't care for yourselves, you each make the other suffer.
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