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Old May 13, 2012, 09:56 PM
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Originally Posted by critterlady View Post
*** trigger warning ***

They do make me feel safe. One of my main issues is CSA by a trusted neighbor. I was 13 and had a massive crush on him. He used that crush against me.

The boundaries with T assure me that, no matter what feelings I develop for him, he will not take advantage of that.

Now- if I had a male T I would appreciate the boundaries. But I have a female T. I guess for me it feels natural to just have no boundaries. I can hug her, but there are other things that I might have done or said that she really objects to- and I just don't get it. I'm very respectful, so when things come up, I just don't understand. I am Trying to though.