shezbut,

I like what you said about showing them I sweat.
I used to work out and I met some cool people that way.
I might have to take that up again.

I keep referring to men here, but I actually have dated women... The last one I dated was not into wearing makeup except on special occasions, but she prefered me to wear makeup all the time and be girly. That wasn't very comfortable to have that expectation to hold up to and to always feel like I had to fit in a certain role 24-7, and I imagine that I have had boyfriends who had those same expectations.