I'm far from perfect. I've lived with my nuclear family, plus three different living situations with three different groups of roommates. Now I live with my husband. I've known that I'm difficult to live with. I'm high strung, type A personality and am a very stressful person. I love living with my husband, and normally his type B personality helps destress me, and I help motivate him. While we sometimes clash, we primarily balance and even each other out. Lately though, we just simply clash. All the time. We aren't one of those couples that fight a lot. Normally we get along great and I've always considered us to have a great relationship. For the last few weeks though, maybe longer, I'm just exhausted.. we bicker so much. I feel like he constantly critiques me. I have a full time job, he has a part time, yet my type A personality drives me to do more even when I come home after a long day at work, I still clean up. We clash constantly over being equal partners. I resent him for not doing more around the house when he has more time to. He resents me for getting on his case. He critiques the things I overlook, and I don't feel like he has the right to critique me when he isn't being an equal partner.

I have to let go of my resentment towards him. Whether I'm doing 90% of the work and working full time, I can't say "I don't care how you feel cause I work harder". That's not okay.
But at the same time, I don't feel like I can really I take what he feels into account because everytime he says a 'stupid' complaint like "you didn't wash the wine glasses right" I feel like he has NO right to say that, when he could have just washed them himself.
How do we get over it? Change needs to happen on both ends, but I think that we are both so tired of fighting and going back and forth that we aren't willing to make the effort. Where do I find the energy to make the effort, when I believe it should come from him first and then me?