actually, the T said there was no cure for the childhood neglect / lack of nuturing I received as a child. it's one of the reasons why I do not desire intimacy or seem to enjoy it much. it all reflects back to my rejection and the unending emotional coldness by my mother. intimacy reminds me of that hurt and the hurt undermines intimacy because my basic childhood needs of love, affection and closeness were never met. so, intimacy just makes me . . . sad. it was something that I was never taught. instead, i learned isolation and coldness. being gay just complicates things.