I struggle with them. I realised that when I was younger, instead of going off the rails because no rules were set for me, I set my own really rigid rules. I took care of myself, I followed my rules. It didn't work out very well in the end. Now, in therapy, I've realised that I set the boundaries for myself (never contact T outside of a session, because I will survive until my next appointment in a week). I think it's because I'm so afraid of hitting the boundaries, and feeling really rejected if I do. For a long time I couldn't even ask simple questions, because I couldn't bear the thought of them not being answered, if I'd missed an obvious boundary. When I had trouble talking at all, early on, T made me play a game and it involved asking the other person a question, and I almost couldn't ask any of the questions I thought of. I remember trying to find things that would be easy to answer like "what country would you like to travel to"? I don't think I've ever hit a boundary in T. I don't think I want to.