I'm very attached to T, but I think she keeps me from being too dependent on her. When I started calling her in distress more frequently, she never minded me calling, though she always began by asking what skills have I already tried to use to distract or calm myself. So basically, to talk to her, I already needed to have tried other alternatives first. It really helped me try to work through distressing/emotional things independently before reaching out. She was more than happy to help, but made it clear that she should only be one of my options, not THE option. Also, when I shut down in session, she first tried to bring me out of it. But after awhile, she just let me sit in it so I could pull myself out of it.