You P.M.'d me and asked me to respond so I will. As far as having similar thoughts to him, well... I just kinda get what he's doing. So I will elaborate for you what I see:

First off, in reading your entire post you never once gave one example of him asking anything of you. He was the one setting limitations. He actually stayed very true to his word and it didn't look like he was hiding how he felt from you. He said very straight out what it was that he needed. BUT... what he did do is agree to meet up with you, and he even was extrememly kind when he did. Things appeared to start to develop and that's when he started avoiding you and seeing those other girls. He must have thought you would be out of there. But you stayed.

I really don't see this as confusing. Maybe your right. Maybe I have similar thoughts as he does. I see this as someone who knows they can't handle a relationship. He told you from the beginning, but he tried anyways. It seems obvious to me that after meeting you, and trying that it got too much for him. It seems he can't handle it for whatever reason. He is trying to get you to be 'safe' for him. He has no problem with mindless sex with other girls. But there is no commitment to those girls. He doesn't want you to say you miss him or to get too deep with him. Once again not having a commitment, or should I say a strong attachment.

I believe that he is trying to make you safe for him. That's why he has all of those crazy requests. That's why he says not to say you miss him. Not to get too emotional. He has been consistent with his requests, and then he pulled away.

After reading up on the meds he is on, and the way he is reacting... I would think that whatever he is being treated for is causing him to feel almost worthless. A fear of rejection too. Tourettes syndrome, bipolar disorder, Schizophrenia and/or Shcizoaffective disorder bipolar type. I'm sure there are more that are treated by that combination.

Well that's whats in my head. I was only pointing out that he is not stringing you along in my original post. I'm sorry that this is happening with someone you have these strong feelings for. You can't fix him though. He is on anti psychotics for a reason. I am on those too. My wife can't fix me either.