sigh.... yeah, I hear ya on this. No cure for neglect/unhappy childhood? I wanted to believe there was if I worked very very hard I could find a safe "father figure" in my therapist. But it's dangerous. (Did you have transference too?) My T left me recently when I became suicidal and how helpful was that?? LOL... (we're considering re-starting again though). My T knows about my childhood but maybe I should specifically have asked that question: "can we work on this? and what would that work look like?" I don't know what psychodynamic therapy is. I'll look it up. But okay say it does take ten years. Wouldn't it be worth it? Why not? You deserve to be happy.