Actually, my T is trying to encourage me to be more dependent on ANYONE, be that her, a friend, whomever. I've always just held everything in, never sharing with anyone, afraid to trust anyone. One of the things I'm working on in t is reaching out to others when I need to, rather than just holding everything in and trying to shove it away.

So, right now, I'm dependent on T for some emotional support, but I wouldn't consider it TOO dependent, especially since she keeps encouraging me to reach out even more.

The goal, of course, is to not need support from T, but to be able to find it in other relationships. I'm working on it, but am not comfortable enough to share some things with friends, and it feels safer to share with T.

I think, for some, part of therapy is learning to be dependent on someone else, and in that case, dependence on t (initially) is encouraged, to help the client learn how to reach out and learn that it is safe to do so.