Thanks so much for the feedback Leed. I hesitate to reach out to any of his friends because I'm sure this would get back to him but, over the course of our relationship, any number of them have told me what a sweet and caring guy that he is (e.g., his brother, friends, former roommates) and how much he cares about everyone else. They've actually talked about how he doesn't always protect himself and seems to lack a temper of any kind (i.e., almost perceived as too placid; they call him the Prophet). I think the stress is pretty close to unbearable right now (I definitely would not have been able to handle it myself), and I want to help him find a good balance. I've read a bit that coming down off of a history of pot usage can bring out anger issues, but I don't think there was much anger (until the last few years) that anyone would have seen. As a side note, he and I together have done a lot of reading lately and determined that he likely has adult ADD and may be a reason that he started to self-medicate in the first place.

He's open to seeing a therapist for the ADD but I'm not sure that he realizes that he may have an anger issue...for now, I think that he thinks he's just finally imposing some boundaries. But, if I can get him some help for the ADD, I'm sure any therapist who knows what he's doing will bring up changes in temperment. I hope. :-)