it was because i was sending her e-mails or letters with things that were going on in my head but when it came time for session i would refuse to even open my mouth to deal with them. she said it wasn't helpful for me to do this at all that i needed to see that i had a voice and that what i had to say wasn't so horrible that i needed to be secretly sent to her and never talked about.and so on.i still have a hard time with all of it but i am talking a bit better in T now so she must know what she is doing but i hate it.