I'm not too dependent. In fact, T is encouraging me to become more dependent. I asked him once what the criteria should be for calling him between sessions (we don't text or email), because I didn't want to be the client who constantly needs him. He said that he actually worries the opposite about me - that I won't call when I really should as opposed to calling for trivial things.

I've always taken pride in being fiercely independent (with emphasis on the fierce, I suppose). I'm just now starting to learn that independence is overrated. A more fulfilling way to live is to learn to trust people enough to become interdependent on them. The first step in that is trusting him enough to depend heavily on him. It may go a little too far in the opposite direction at some point, but that's how you learn to zero in on the appropriate level of dependency/interdependency.