I haven't actually pushed any of the boundaries with T, come to think of it. He always says that I don't need to be concerned about the boundaries - that it's his job to manage them. But, after reading what a lot of you have posted, I realize I don't really know where his boundaries are, at least for contact. I haven't hit them yet and I think the main reason for that is that him telling me I've crossed a boundary would feel like a rejection and I don't handle rejection very well.

Hmmm. I'll bet anything that this has not gone unnoticed by T and that at some point, he's going to push me into crossing a boundary, just to understand how I react to him enforcing them. I am not looking forward to that.