Writing it makes me ill too. The thought that there is someone out there, perpetrating all of this leaves me feeling nauseated, actually. From time to time, I'll meet someone here in town (fairly small city) who has seen this T and the stories are often the same. Oddly enough, he has a rather large following and some people who defend his tactics. But others react very strongly in the other direction, and act fast. For example, I met someone recently, a gay man who had two or three appointments with this T and quit very promptly. When I asked him why...he said...well that T called me from his home phone on Saturday night and I thought...this is ridiculous! And that was all it took...he quit!

sorry for hijacking. As long-time posters know, this T relationship was very damaging to me...

One of the things I'm currently working on is the ability to discern, decide and act and not look back and second-guess myself when faced with these kinds of people....trusting myself to know..Yes, writing about it makes me feel ill....

Thanks for the support

MCL