I totally get this... and have been in the same position with a similar question: Will you ever leave (read: abandon) me? Her answer is not an unequivocal no for some of the same type reasons that WePow listed. She'll always qualify this statement w/ "it's highly unlikely, but" what if she saw that our therapy were causing me more harm than good. It's not the case now, at all, but there's like a .1% chance of this. She also brought up that she could get in a car accident or have a heart attack or something tomorrow - she promised me, though, that she has no health problems. She was trying to make the point that we don't know what tomorrow will bring and responding "always" or "never" to some questions isn't a good idea. What she did promise me are two things. First, if she was thinking that maybe our relationship needed some sort of drastic change (and I did ask about the hug thing early on), then we would first talk about it and come to a mutual agreement and no change would be all of a sudden (barring something like my threatening her - again, completely unlikely possibilities). Second, if something were to happen to her, then she would always be in my heart--this is a safe always.

I know how hard it is, but though you might not feel absolutely wonderfully afterward (recognizing that there are exceptions to everything...), I do think that talking to T aloud will help you to feel better about the whole situation.