I can understand how forgiveness could help with releasing of pain.. but i see for my pain and all a little different-

forgiveness is not so much of what I do but "understanding"..

Not to dismiss what was ignorance or ignored and what a mother should had done. but understanding that just perhaps- just perhaps- she just was just so overwhelmed and "didn't know what to do" and she was "not strong enough to ask for help"... <- that sounds totally mean I know, but that one t said that was ok to say; so guess will go with that--- and the understanding that she has even to this day, a lot of work to do with herself..

sure i still feel a little shame -- yeah this weekend was hard-- it is something to work through i keep getting told.

And hey- the card sending sounds good too-

to each their own

Many hugs to you all