I hope your new T will help you figure all this out. How do you know that he hadn't already planned on telling you he was leaving at that session? He must have had a plan as to when to break this to you and turn you over to a new T. I think there's a good chance that this was coincidence. I really really doubt that you're so awful that you have the power to drive a T out of the business!!!!!

It must feel terrible to think that what you said caused this to happen. So please follow up with your new T and tell her how you feel - that the one little "bad" thing you said caused him to abandon you. This is important - you shouldn't have to deal with this alone.

Sending you hugs, and hope you get some answers and can feel better.