I have mixed feelings about boundaries. My T has a no touch boundary. Coming from a background of SA, this makes me feel safe. Plus he's kind of a small guy and I'm kinda chesty so if we hugged that would embarrass me. Also, we sit about five feet apart in sessions - sometimes he leans forward and rolls in a little closer to make a point and I want to bolt because it feels threatening.

On the other hand, during my six years with him - so much trauma, so much SI, SA, crisis, etc. I would have loved a hug, holding his hand, an arm on my shoulder, a pat on the back - it would have meant a lot. I don't get a lot of physical touch in my life, and when I am in crisis or depressed, really crave it.

I never did approach it with him though, or asked him what his boundaries are. I just kind of figured it out as therapy progressed. Maybe I should - I could be so wrong - think what I could be missing out on