I've thought that as well. Why on earth should I speak to this woman if there's a chance I'm going to fall in love with her only to run out of money and then for her to move away and refuse phone calls and then retire. BUT I also try to remember that we, as humans are really good at talking really loudly about the bad things we encounter and we are much quieter about the good.

So take a deep breath and say "silent tsol is feeling this but that doesn't mean I am. Right now I'm feeling this and that's what matters in my life". It's like college statistics, some people get A's, some people go out and drink all the time, some people drop out. Depending on what type of forum you visit, you would see a lot of one situation happening and it might seem like if you go to college you might eventually get A's because that's what everyone else is talking about happening