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Originally Posted by sunrise
I feel very happy and content with my therapy, I feel safe, and I understand boundaries (although I'm still working on holding firm and not letting others encroach on my boundaries). There are many reasons people post here. I post to share my experience, hear other people's experiences, get insight from people about my and other posters' therapy, give support, and learn learn learn. I have also made friends. Sometimes I need support too--people here are very generous with their support. It's a real community.
LydiaB, just because some threads describe the type of relationship you would not like to have with your T doesn't mean that will come to pass. There are many different sorts of relationships with Ts described on this board. Look for those that sound like what you want. Reading the others can be useful too--they can help you identify the direction you don't want your therapy to go in. FWIW, you can definitely be close to your T without stalking him/her in the grocery store!
Good luck.
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I'm with sunrise. I am 100% happy and content with my therapy relationship, I learned a couple of years ago to put up boundaries and respect those of my T (and others), and I still sometimes appreciate support. No one person, such as a T, can be a sole source of support. It's healthy to reach out to others, whether here or among friends. I also feel as though I've had several therapy experiences, including one very bad one (which I've only recently completely worked through--thanks to everyone for support on that), that allows me to hopefully give support to others.
On this board I see a range of experiences, personalities, and time in therapy. In fact, that's one of the things that I really like about it. It's not all people who are new to therapy or those who have been in therapy for years and years. It's a mix and great to see the peace and wisdom that one can gain from hard work and time. I'd say that one common denominator is that people here are reflective about their therapy and therapy relationships. Everyone here is trying really hard in therapy to work on themselves and are often curious about their relationship with their T. What we're doing is so hard and perhaps some people exhibit behavior that can be perceived as scary, but it's all part of a process and each person will react to different situations differently. Fearing a response makes you fixate on it and actually makes it more likely to happen.