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Originally Posted by Weezil
His therapist is really good, and this time we hit on a lot of heavy duty stuff - like intimacy (or lack of - and I mean sex too) Does anyone else have the same issue?? Anyhow, part of me says that part of it is the illness, but then another part says that maybe there is some truth to some of it. But then when we try to discuss it he dosen't know.
You know it takes two to tango and right now, he dosen't take as much care about some things. Personally that isn't really apealling to me. And I'm sure there are some things that I could do, but when I question him, he dosen't say. We are more like roommates instead of husband & wife.
We go back at the end of the month - wonder how that is going to be?
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Hi weezel -
Just wanted to say thank goodness I wandered across this forum. So many of the posts here hit the nail on the head and have lifted a weight off my shoulders. WE ARE NOT ALONE!! But back to the question at hand - Yes I think alot of us deal with the lack of intimacy with our depressed/bipolar spouses. I too feel like I have a roommat but not a husband. He's not into the relationship at all. Says he just feels numb - I can jump on top of him and he's looking over my shoulder for the remote. Most of the time I have to remind him to shower, brush his teeth, take trash out etc. So I've basically stopped trying. I know alot has to do with the meds but even with the cialis the dr gave us a sample of he barely wanted to do anything just wants me to do everything. Hello! I'm already taking care of most of the daily responsibilities so no I don't want to be the one to just jump on. Where's the fun it that?? Good luck at your therapy session I'm sure it will help to some extent!
