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Sweetie, you can't fix him. You're having enough trouble helping yourself. You BOTH need therapy, and badly. For YOU, you have to realize that you cannot control what HE does. You don't have that power, and worrying about him is only making you crazy. Worry does NOT change anything. It does no one any good. All it does is make you sick. What is the point of worry? Nothing.
Your brother is going to have to decide to take care of himself and get himself some help. HE has to do it. He CANNOT expect YOU to take care of him. And it's time that you put those bad memories to rest -- but you're going to have to have help with that -- a therapist can help you put closure on that. Those things have to be buried, never to surface again. They've GOT to quit hurting you!!
Please seek out a good therapist. It's crucial to your healing. It's not only about your past, but your present too. It sounds like people are walking all over you. Make the call today -- please. God bless and let us know how you're doing from time to time cause we all care. Hugs, Lee
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