What can be done to end this? A 3-day tantrum is pretty long for someone who is old enough to be working. This daughter is now being abusive, and that should be pointed out to her. Is she in therapy? Does she want history to repeat itself, or worse? Ask her what she is doing to help herself, to change. At least YOU are doing something, trying something new, doing the best you can. She needs to start trying also, and stop blaming her past.