so why don't you look at it like a session with a personal trainer, only for your brain? T strengthens your sense of security, of being loved, of having a good dad, while you're in session, then you go live your life. You wouldn't want your real dad hanging around you all day long. OTOH, I finally had to figure out EXACTLY what it meant for me as I kept asking T to marry me - it meant I was alright. It meant I would BE alright. T was like, what does THAT mean?! So like DF did, it's good to "talk out" the fantasy and see where it leads - mine was such a strange like saying from my family, cos they think I'm NOT alright, that I need someone to take care of me. Even while I was supporting myself quite successfully as a computer programmer for 30 effing years. anyway. good job, kids.