"..Same job for 18 years never missed a day work in 26 years never unemployed,never had to want,new home not sure of your expectations but apparently U had a real bad experiences.I only had a couple few maybe at best problems besides my kids issues,I am were I am now because my kids issues I am old school my bad just the way I am I can't change that and have no want to even try."

1tash1,

I've got to say, I agree with eskielover's comments about how your wife learned a while ago, to leave the relationship emotionally to protect herself. Your sobriety of 3 months is good. After 18 years of being a functioning alcoholic, 3 months isn't very long at all though. It takes time to re-build trust.

Personally, I grew up around functioning alcoholics (my dad, and uncle in-law). Both were "happy drinkers", not the angry type, thankfully. But, my dad had an affair with a woman & my uncle molested me several times ~ all of the while both maintained high paying technical and supervisory careers.

My dad finally put drinking in his past, but it did take a while for him to re-build trust with my mom. My uncle in-law got killed in a freak accident while leaving a bar years later. He tripped down the stairs and fell against the iron hand-railing. It entered his jugular vein, causing major bleeding & he died one week later.

Sorry if my post hurts or angers you ~ that's not my intention. My hope is to get you to see from the other side of the bottle. Some pains caused in alcoholism cause a lifetime of suffering to the innocent. Like your daughters, who likely picked up on the tension and caused them a lot of confusion, ambivalence, and fear.

Does that make better sense to you now?