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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
((((((((((((((((( chopin ))))))))))))))))
If I could write your letter, I would be done with therapy. I cannot say what you say, that I am inherently worthy of love, respect, friendship.
Your letter is so deep and honest. I hope your T responds in person and in writing and that the two of you can spend all the time needed on this to answer your questions.
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I am certain it will be discussed Friday.
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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
for yourself, I wonder whether you might be able to make some headway into this by looking at something you wrote >> but at the end of the day, A (one of my clients) wonders why I cannot say I am her friend. Why? It's not good for her.
and think about why you question your answer, and why even though you question it, you still did not say that you are her friend. I don't think it is because you think yourself better than her. That's not the Chopin I've come to know here on PC.
you ask >> Well, why isn't it [good for her]? and you know what your training has taught you about that, and in so many years of practice you may also know whether the teaching is true or not.
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It's not good for her because I've been taught it is not good for her. A service provider cannot be objective if one is friends with a client. I know that can be true, but in my field, if I wanted to volunteer to take A home for a holiday, I can do so. Outside the framework of the service agency, one can treat a client however he/she wants, although it is expected a "good" service provider would remain therapeutic, I know of provider staff who "spoil" clients outside the facility.
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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
Therapy is a hard road, yes. Clients (patients, whatever) do suffer, and that means something needs adjusting. The "therapeutic frame" works, I am the first to admit that it's weird and difficult and frustrating and humiliating and all the rest; but it does work. Looking across PC forum I see 9587467373
therapeutic dyads and just as many unique relationships. I hope that you & T work yours out too. sorry for my long ramble, I am wishing peace to you  |
My therapeutic relationship has been good for quite some time, but the inherent inequity of it bothers me. It bothers me having experience on both sides of the therapeutic dynamic. The therapeutic frame does work. I know that. However, sometimes I see clients treated disposably and I don't like it.
Thanks SAWE.
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Originally Posted by farmergirl
A few months ago you went through a major issue with wanting your T to be an equal to you -- to be your friend. That seemed to have gotten resolved. Is this the same thing you are experiencing?
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It is somewhat different in nature this time. Before, it was a primal desire from a younger part of me. This time, it is philosophical in nature, causing me to question the therapeutic framework from both sides; as a client and as a service provider.
It is also multi-faceted due to the two other situations that occurred this past weekend that need to be discussed in session.