I've been thinking about this. I don't think there's any such thing as "too dependent." We're as dependent as we need to be. That may be more dependent than we're comfortable with, but the mind wants what it wants. If you need the dependence, you're going to feel it. You may fight it, but it's still there.

I think it would be illuminating to explore the fear of or resistance to dependence. It's probably based on something that would be very valuable to address.