I finally gave him, a choice! It was her or me!! I told him I couldn't heal with her here and I wasn't staying if she was here. He choose me but he is still, what I can tell, angry and hurt from not having that "relationship". But I don't care. I told him everything in my heart, every little thing that hurt me, each time they left to do something without asking me to go or whatever the event was that hurt. I let him have it all. I wanted him to hurt as badly as I did. Then I cried and so did he. All he could say is that he didn't realize how badly I was still hurting and that he felt I was working through this whole thing. Then and told him about all the times I had said to him that I was hurting with her here and that I wasn't OK and that he had not heard me because he wanted both relationships and didn't want to here what I was saying to him. He didn't know what to say. I told him I was leaving because he couldn't stop having contact with her. He begged me to stay and that he would end all contact forever if I would give him 7 days. I gave him the 7 days and so far no contact has happened. I have been watching very closely, even following him. I hate doing that but if I don't how will I really know he is telling the truth. He has already lied before. I trusted him once to many times and I was slapped in the face. He knows I don't trust him, I told him that much and he doesn't know I can check his cell phone to see who and when he has texted or called. But I'm tired of having to play Nanny if things are not better soon, I leaving anyway. I just don't need this bull S&%%^ anymore. It's not helping my pain or my depression and he continues to seem unsupportive even though he says he is. I'm just tired of it all.