Chopin, your thread makes me wonder if too much self-disclosure by a T can be detrimental. It seems like your relationship with your T is fluid - sometimes she brings you in as a somewhat colleague and then, of course, other times she plays the therapist role. It must be confusing.

I've pondered whether I want to know more about my T. On one hand I am very curious as to whether she is married or has children but another part of me wants her to only only only be my therapist. For me, I think, the more I would learn about my T the more I would know she has a life outside of the therapy room.

Of course I know she does but what I value and what I cherish is the pure therapeutic relationship that she and I have.

I'm not saying that clients can have more than that in a healthy therpeutic relationship but, for me, I'm pretty sure that the less concrete facts about my T that I know, the better.

What I do know is that she's caring, she's empathic, she's a genius at helping me know myself, she does all she can to help me, she does make mistakes but, in the end, I still trust her to have my best interests at heart. I know a few small facts about her simply because they came up in therapy and were relevant to my issues we were discussing.

I'm so sorry that you are being challenged this way. I'm sure you'll be able to work it out with your T. Lots of hugs.