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Originally Posted by skysblue
Chopin, your thread makes me wonder if too much self-disclosure by a T can be detrimental. It seems like your relationship with your T is fluid - sometimes she brings you in as a somewhat colleague and then, of course, other times she plays the therapist role. It must be confusing.
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I'll admit, it's confusing at times. Last week, I told her I was taking a break that started when she went out with her surgery. She told me that doing so is okay, then talked to me like a friend; about her breast reconstruction, about BCBS lowering her allowable rate by $12 (and her opinion of that), shop talk about the mental health industry, etc.
Overall, I've made great progress despite her flexible boundaries. I decided to put myself and my healing first...and made strides. She's been integral in the process.
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Originally Posted by skysblue
What I do know is that she's caring, she's empathic, she's a genius at helping me know myself, she does all she can to help me, she does make mistakes but, in the end, I still trust her to have my best interests at heart. I know a few small facts about her simply because they came up in therapy and were relevant to my issues we were discussing.
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This IS the most important thing. I know all this is true of my T.
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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
The T is providing a LICENSED service to the client; then the client gets her car fixed by a LICENSED mechanic. The mechanic is perfectly free to be friend of the client, the T is absolutely forbidden this.
why ?
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Good question; I see both sides to the story. I think actually being friends with a T during the therapy process is detrimental. I still see nothing wrong with being friends once the process is complete, if and only if, both parties are willing and capable of seeing and handling the relationship as a two-way street.