I don't know if this belongs in the self-harm or if it belongs in the relationships forums, but since it is more about a woman and a date, I thought it would more appropriate here.

Yes! I HAVE A DATE! The last date I had over a year ago she used me and took my money. When I told my best friend that I bought her a pregnancy test, which she used, on our first encounter, my best friend freaked! I thought that I was being a nice friend since I have more money, but I am told that, no, it was inappropriate.

This woman I seem to connect with online. She's 23 years old and is suffering from a muscle condition that will inevitably leave her immobile, but for now she is in a wheelchair and recently had a tube surgically put inside of her. Nevertheless, she is nice, she seems to like me, I like her, that's that. We connected on OkCupid.com, a dating website I am a moderator on, after I sent her a message.

But the concern I have is with the scars from self-harm all over my arms and legs – what do I do about those when we first meet, or do they matter at all? The scars are all so bad that I can't hide them and wear clothing I like. My options either are to use those long, wrap-around bandaid things that are clipped with a safety pin, which draws attention to me, or wear a jacket or a sweater and risk a heat stroke at 89˚F.

Advice? .