Don't worry (I know easier said than done). A lawyer won't be rude to you because they are trying to keep your case. They know that if they don't treat you right that you can always fire them and find another one. If your claim is denied when you request the appeal paperwork they include a sheet with resources for lawyers so you won't be cold calling out of the yellow pages. As for applying, you don't have to go into the office anymore. You can go here http://www.socialsecurity.gov/pgm/disability.htm and apply right online. No more waiting for an appointment and it can be done 24/7 now.