Nothing like backing your T into a corner! If T says he doesn't want to date you, you think it's "just" because of the rule. If T says, no, it's because I'm just not that into you, is that better or worse? When does T even get a chance to see your good side? Pretty much all we do is go in there and complain and show weaknesses and troubles. How attractive is that?? I had a friend at work, I liked telling him my troubles, but I didn't like hearing about his, I thought he was a big whiner! At least I kinda joke about my problems, but him, wah-wah-wah wah-wah. And it was all hopeless, nothing he could or would change. But he was cute... but still! No, I can't go for that! (Hall 'n' Oates) I only see ONE "consenting adult" on these boards - on the rare occasions there have been two, it hasn't been good. That said, I asked - no, TOLD - my T to marry me again today. He didn't even flinch this time, he must be getting used to my therapeutic process