I have trust issues like many people, and it really effects me and my day to day happiness.

Months ago I went out drinking with my boyfriend. At the bar we met up with two of his female friends which I do not know well but had met a few times. When we returned to his place that night, both drunk, he would not get off his phone even though it was three in the morning. I finally grabbed it from him. He had been texting back and forth with one of his female friends all night, and the texts were very innappropriate and hurtful. Basically she was trying to get him to go see her to hook up, and he was saying he couldn't, but when I was gone on Monday they could. We got in a big fight. I stayed the night (on the couch) since I was too drunk to get anywhere.

The next morning he came up as if nothing happened- he didn't remember the texts or the fight apparently. This I believe since he often forgets things when he drinks too much. I went to leave him that morning, I was so incredibly hurt.

He convinced me to stay. He was remorseful and extremely apologetic. He said it was just the alcohol, he promised he wouldn't speak to her anymore.

I talked to many of his friends about it that have known him for years. They all assured me that he would never do something like that knowingly, and that he really was the great guy I had always thought. I stayed and we've been happy. But now I have problems trusting him. I want our relationship to work and I want to trust him. But anytime I don't know where he is or who he's with, or even if I do, I get worried about what he's doing. Especially if he's drinking. I get worried when hes texting and I don't know who hes talking to. Sometimes I ask who hes talking to and he'll tell me or even show me, so its not like hes trying to hide it, but I cant ask all the time and I don't want to.

Last night he was supposed to come over but he ended up not being able to make it. He doesn't have a license right now, and the person he was going to get to drive him wasn't feeling good. I know this person and I know she wasn't feeling good. But even still I was upset and worried about what he was doing, and super stressed. Its not like I'm clingly and need to see him every night, but sometimes I just get so worried. I've talked to him about this and hes listened and understood and said hes sorry that he screwed up and made me this way.

Has anyone been in a situation like this and learnt to trust the person again? If you read my eariler post, I mentioned insecurity issues in my relationship...I guess they stem from this.

Sorry for the novel...