T gets defensive!!! It's ugly, isn't it? It truly is that Wizard of Oz moment. We had a lonnnng talk about this today, it's a sensitive subject for them. (Remember a short while back, eastcoaster said what a breakthru it was when her T admitted she was wrong about something?)

My T said asked me if I felt unloved when he got defensive. I said no, I like when he hides behind walls, it means he's naked behind them, i'm seeing the real person. He said, well you're used to FOO being defensive - and he does have a point there. This wasn't the whole conversation and we agreed there was more to talk about.

But this might be a reason to keep T in the room - less chance of him getting "tripped up". I hope you don't let it spoil the good thing you have going. I hope HE is able to talk about it. Your reaction, your feeling is totally reasonable, understandable - it's kinda nauseating. But please talk it out with him. It is EXACTLY these kind of weird incidents - working thru them - that can move therapy a giant step forward.