it's a positive because you are being brave enough to say it. it's taking a risk. it IS scary. You're saying, YES, I AM GOING THERE! You obviously saw better than he did what happened, or at least you have your own version. T is NOT our abusive boyfriend, we are not gonna get smacked for saying, "uh, you know when you tripped back there? I need to talk about it." If T can't handle it, you need to move on, as you would if the boyfriend smacked you. But i'm pretty sure T can handle it.

ETA: and it's still important to talk about it, what it means for you two, not just here on PC.