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May 17, 2012, 01:58 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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I think I can see 1tash1's side too tho -- He says that his wife wasn't emotionally HONEST -- and that can be a hard thing to swallow when you didn't realize it and you have to hear it in the counselors office. All of a sudden she hits you with all this "stuff" that you didn't know!!  I mean, that can HURT.
How is HE going to trust HER??? Anything she says, he's going to question! So SHE has some trust to earn back too! It's not just HIS trust that has to be earned. It's her's too. She's not blameless here.
There's a lot of work to be done on this marriage. She made a LOT of mistakes. She's hurt him a lot -- if she had been HONEST with him, things could have been easier. Don't know what the point was in basically lying to him -- what did that accomplish?
1Tash1 -- I know you're disheartened, and are ready to give up, but I don't think you really WANT to. Are you going to keep up with the counseliing? What does your counselor say? Does the counselor advise you two to divorce or to keep trying? Don't give up yet. There might still be hope if the wife would just get and STAY honest!! God bless. I'm on your side! Hugs, Lee
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