I probably misrepresented his point of view. I think he was saying that poor people help each other out more because they have to rely on one another. Better off people can afford not to be so dependent on the kindness of others. That interdependence can be a source of happiness.

When I was in Kano, I was walking in the old city with a Nigerian woman. It started to rain, and she lead me into a doorway to wait for it to end. It was someone's private home! We sat and visited with the people there until the rain stopped then went on our way. Would that happen here? Not a chance! I've heard of at least two stories recently where homeowners shot people who came up onto their porches - and it was considered justifiable homicide without the bother and inconvenience of a trial or anything.

You do have to wonder who's happier.

Yes, and he's definitely had his share of pain.

Yes, but both the Dalai Lama and Thich Nhat Hanh probably hear enough stories of pain from people seeking help and comfort. I love both of them, but sometimes they recount a story and give advice, and I want to roll my eyes.

Thanks! I've never heard of him. I love Buddhist psychology and Buddhist approaches to dealing with mental suffering.