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Old May 17, 2012, 05:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Leed View Post
You two need to sit down and talk. You need to discuss where this relationship is going. Perhaps couples counseling would help. Do you have anything in common? What can you two DO together? Why doesn't he take you fishing WITH him -- do you like to fish?
Thank you Leed,

I sat down with my bf early this afternoon ~ after I posted this rant/Q. I told him how I felt. He apologized for hurting me, but I'm not really sure that he understands what I'm saying to him. Because the next thing I know, he goes into frustration that he has with himself (for being paralyzed chest down). He'll never understand what I get out of the relationship, etc.

I really do care about my bf. I am attracted to him. I have fun with him. But, maybe we've just gone as far as we can go. Because no matter how often we have sex, it's never enough for him. He always wants more & then complains that he's always the one to ask and he dislikes that. I told him that there are times that I want him, and he's not around, but I don't use those times against him. I don't make remarks to make him feel guilty about not being around or not "in the mood".

We often do go fishing together, which I enjoy. I'm just not as passionate about it as he is. He'd go every day ~ all morning to about 11 p.m. if he had it his way! I'm happy with about 4 hours a day, 3 or 4 days per week, if I could have things my way. I still have a part-time job, appointments with doctors, watching my girls, and grocery shopping to do.

Thanks for the hug and listening...
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