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Old May 17, 2012, 05:28 PM
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The scores aren't etched in stone. Really!

Try to step back a little bit and breathe. Slowly and deeply. Let yourself relax.

My overall score on the test has ranged around 147-154 in the several times that I've taken it. A few of the issues are always quite significant. Others, not so much. It's been 3 years and I've been in therapy throughout. I've also been taking medications and seeing some improvements in certain areas of my life. My point is that it takes time. Especially when you're dealing with more than one problem ~ it's not overnight. Try not to focus so much on the numbers.

Instead, know that you have a few interrelated struggles and work on coming up with strategies to help you cope and develop more strength to work toward overcoming other emotional challenges. Try hard not to compare yourself to others, like your Mom. We all have different coping techniques. Just because you're mom has overcome her struggles doesn't mean that you aren't entitled to taking a little bit of time to work towards overcoming your issues. I'm sure that it wasn't real easy for your mom either. You may want to tell her that you're just having a real tough time right now, and that you need her to be more gentle with you ~ more compassionate.

It's hard to see those that we care about in such pain. I hope that you find a good T and a helpful Psych Doc very soon. Take care!
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